I believe that, as humans, we principally conflict with these two C’s in our day to day life. Change and Coexistence. When you find these two things hard to do?. Take a breather. You know what. These two C’s can peacefully coexist if you “TAKE TURNS” and birds live by this wonderful motto.Read on to know what you need to know.
Don’t change: Don’t change yourself as a compromise for the things happen in life. Few events in life cannot be controlled but that does not mean that you have to be reduced by them. If life seems miserable ,it is only because you always have others to tell you about how to do your things and in such circumstances you obviously deserve a boring life and end up miserable handling it.
Change: Two things are very important to you. Who and what you want. Follow your heart!. Steve Jobs , at his Stanford University commencement speech said , “For past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself : “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what Iam about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.
Don’t live for others: When you don’t find a reason to continue, you must think of a reason to start over. Happiness is when you feel good about yourself without feeling the need for anyone else’s approval. You must have a healthy relationship with yourself to have a healthy relationship with others. You have to feel worthwhile and acceptable in your own eyes, so that you ‘ll be able to look confidently into the eyes of the people around you and connect with them.
Live for others: Take lead of your life for it is all you have, but do not disregard who love you. At the end of the day, the success and its rewards, it’s all nothing without the people who love you.Whole world does not revolve around you.Nothing else really matters. Let go off your ego. Ego can dissolve any relationship. It takes a lot many things to build and nothing but ego destroys any relationship. And Ego cannot be love. Don’t confuse it with love.Birds don’t have “ego”, they are only “aware” that they can change and coexist
Awareness and Ego cannot coexist.
Take turns: Taking turns is a critical and effective social skill for enjoyable life, be it interaction, game, family, profession or life. It is not an innate skill, it has to be developed. In fact, practising it improves your self-confidence. Do it yourself will not work all the time. There will be times you should think about leaving it to a pro. I mean, who is best at it within the family or team. It is important to coach everybody around you on this social skill as you are only helping them with a life skill. Also, when you are all worked up and tired ,if you keep asking yourself why am I so tired and too busy, it is time to switch off the “ever-ready” mode and let someone to take turns. Read: 7 minutes of Wisdom
Do you know that birds fly in formation shaped like the alphabet “V”? The bird in the lead works the hardest by being the first to break through the air, which offers resistance to its flight.Just as a boat leaves a V-shaped wake of smoother water behind it, the lead bird leaves a V-shaped wake of slightly ‘smoother’ air behind it (actually the lead bird creates a trail of air turbulence that helps lift along the V-shaped direction), and it is bit easier for the other birds to fly in the wake of the lead bird.
If you watch a V-formation carefully, you’ll notice that the lead bird does not stay in that position for very long and will drop back into the formation, while another, not-as-tired bird takes the lead, breaking through the air first. Who taught birds to take turns and how do they communicate? .When they can be so social and understanding, why not you? .Wake Joy! 🙂