In this Daily World, we always live with an autopilot mode on. We do not get time to start new habits, a simple three minute workout or a ten minute walk. We live a life from one month’s paycheck to next month paycheck and in such a way that, at times, we are not able to remember Birthdays & Anniversaries of others and do not mind even behaving out of character to someone and become obnoxious in their eyes.
It’s due to the auto pilot mode, that we don’t realize the things, we are doing, and that which is done unconsciously. Drifting through life, we gradually imbibe bad manners and behaviors for our lifestyle, revolting and growing self-centered over time. This piles up to become a heavy burden to carry and you find yourself lost sight of your own life. Life turns foggy. One fine day, we end up bursting out, nagging about life as if we are carrying the whole world on our shoulders and our shoulders ALONE .
Look around yourself, the people around you, the old man next to you, the shopkeeper, the waitress, even your parents, colleagues, friends, each and every one of them have their own hard life from birth till date and each one of them have unprecedented problems to live with. They have had setbacks , have felt as losers in life at least once, and have commitments by hand and have hopes for life.
Take a minute, just sixty seconds of your life, turn off your auto-pilot mode, switch to consciousness and think ,if you have ever felt ,why am I so hopeless, naggy and negative at times, why did I do it to someone?. It is not my way!
Understanding is the first step of acceptance and recovery. Understand that every creation in this world is associated with each other, yet owns a space, free will on this earth. Only Animals of different species cannot understand the responses of each other. However, If not for the sounds, their non-verbal cues can be reciprocated even by some of the other species just as how our kitten and puppy can reciprocate their feelings to us. But, we human beings because of our intelligence have created thousands of languages and have restrictions in understanding & communicating with each other.
Fundamentally, Man is a social animal. We do everything in groups. As an old adage says, Meditate alone, study by two, sing by three, start journey by four, do agriculture by five and form an army together with many. It is imperative that, No man can live as an island, journey through life alone. It’s our job to build and preserve relationships. It is the universal design. Then, why on earth, are we aloof for?
Most often, not quite intentionally, we have offended or distanced someone; the principal cause would be due to over stress or other reasons. Our brain cells are in autopilot mode, rushed and focused mainly on ourselves, we hurt others, without actually meaning to. It is a side effect not the original cause. It is the complications,we have done to ourselves. It is better to understand others, as to be understood by others or wanting others to understand us.
Same is the case, when others offend you, we cannot help what someone has said and done?. But, we can always control what is within our hands?. Every cloud has a silver lining, try to look for the silver lining in every situation and Presto! The fog is cleared out of your sight.Read on QTIP! Quit taking it personally . Instead of defending, we can crush the autopilot reaction, kill negativity, pause for a second and reflect. In this way you are not only helping yourself, but also the other person and the entire situation.
Understanding others and their differences does not benefit only the other person, but it is a sort of win/win situation, it is where helping you directly or indirectly helps me. And that is what is called as ‘Maturity’.