How Social Media affects our lives ?

I would understand and agree to the people who say that social media has made its mark to show itself to its best advantages like business, friendship, job search, causes, research and reaching out etc, yet the “bandit territory” of it is still unknown to many. Not that I was complaining the whole crowd, but the “many” pointed out here are caught unaware and are attracted by its “irregardless” design. Read on to get into details.

The electronic – world of delusion: Our second virtual world makes us jealous over things, relationships, lifestyles that don’t even exist. Incidentally, “likes, shares, comments, App requests, page invites” in social media has robed our natural interaction methods these days. Social media has enrooted the concept of fabricating your life overboard virtually.

Either passive or aggressive way of communication is something that we have discovered from it. Can you just imagine that we are sort of making a rod for your own back?. This is the worst thing to teach yourself and future folks. And, the message is well articulated just by your behaviour by being on phones and on computers 24/7 which cannot escape from your kid’s eyes and will fall right on their behaviour. Here are studies that are proving it out for you.

Read: 25 Easy Hacks to be energy efficient sitting at the computer

The illusion of happiness: Here is our cup of tea “the image management”. All our statuses are inhibited and composed to tempt bystanders. Always, we think about this on the virtual world” , How to make Aaawsome story of our life in facebook\twitter” but end up with “The grass is always greener on the other side” syndrome getting tempted, feeling depressed with low self esteem and confidence issues not knowing what is happening really at the backstage for them. The premature relationship statuses become a publicity and broadcast, ends recklessly short of privacy before it becomes a bond.

Click illusion: Simple clicks and shares will only generate newsworthy stories. Study says that “The online ‘Slackivists’ who are associated with support charity groups and activism in social media are less likely to support the cause finally. UNICEF built a recent campaign on the insight with a large number of advertisements advocating the message that “Likes don’t save children’s lives. We need money to buy vaccines”. While distance shrinks, does the real cause and awareness increase? All is but news isn’t it?

The illusion of engagement: Instead of incentivizing to run a contest and prompting to ‘like’ or ‘share’ to keep it engaged, it should be naturally driven behaviour and should be moved on their own. The point is it should engage organically.

The majority illusion: When a video or post goes viral, have you wondered the reason it spread like forest fire irrespective of the content or do you know why we always felt that others have more friends than us?. The source of it is not the content but a paradoxical trick play. That is the few people who have huge number of friends will skew the average number of friends to make it ‘big’ and ‘common’, while truth be different regardless of the many who would actually be equivalent to your numbers and have different opinions. But, you will still be inclined to most common . So, even a minority opinion can be tricked and popularised this way, the majority illusion tricks you to believe in something that is not common or true. Leaving out the videos, images that goes viral, think how an anti-social behaviour can effect in this case?

Privacy is an illusion in Social media: Everything is public. Privacy is an illusion. Hacking your privacy is easier and there are no walls to protect your personal information. These days, it is easy for online predators and apps to hack even your photos stored in personal computersmobiles. Once your photo or your information enters the e-world there is really no such thing called true deletion. Internet browsers tracks our every other activity and destroys our privacy in internet. The ‘terms and conditions’ of each site gives you best examples of the access we give to collect whatever information they want from us and do whatever they want with it”

Illusion of socialisation itself: If you have a cohesive idea that you are socialising online, you will find yourself double bind ultimately, that it is a delusion of socialization in itself. Nothing but, you have innovated loneliness instead. Watch the interesting video on innovation of loneliness . The idea of socialising in social media is nothing but a nine-day wonder or a false realm as outside you portray a totally different stance with limited social interactions. I have seen people who post the images of their ” life events” such as weddings and functions in social site, but would not even call the peers who sit beside them at office and neighbours at home who live next to them. Do we connect with friends beyond computer screens?.

The Innovation of loneliness:

The C and D problem: ‘Compare and despair’ is the murkier territory of Social media. By Making Mountain out of molehill, you provide TMI (too much information) about yourself in your social profiles to fabricate and maintain false image. You grew to be an attention freak eventually by continuously posting images and seeking approvals for it.

Online is never a substitute for offline. More impolite behaviours such as posting pictures of others without asking permissions, cyber bullying, and flame war are increasing in this e-world. According to a new study in the council of cyber psychology behaviour and social networking, people who use social media more than once a day are more likely to report relationship conflict arising from social media.

If not for the Shoddier stuffs, Social Media is otherwise just acceptable to show your empathy, practicality and identity through “likes”. This article is wholly for those shout-out egotists and their illusional reality, not for the people who promote love, kindness, compassion,education and growth around the world. Just like how texting message needing someone, telling them where they are, are necessities while being on phones and laptops completely out in public is not. If it rings a bell, just don’t go overboard and keep up your cerebral hygiene.

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  1. Hello! I noticed you probably read my post where I mentioned this “attention freak” syndrome and that need for approval. It is a great and informative article. Thank you.

    • Haha! You knew I said what you were gonna say three days earlier. 🙂
      And your photographs and posts are really worth attention! Geniusly done. Good luck!


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